Imagine you wake up one morning to find you’re turning 30 at the end of the week. You stop for a moment and realize that life looks nothing like you thought it would. Sure, you have some pretty great things going on like a boyfriend who has been crazy supportive, a puppy who makes you smile, and friends who have your back like woah. But you’re spending your days working a job that is completely not the right fit and that is taking quite an emotional toll on you.
What do you do?
You come up with a plan, try your damndest to stay positive at all costs, and get the hell out of there, right? Life is too short to be unhappy.
Ok, so maybe you can’t just up and leave. I get it. Or maybe it’s not a job that’s the source of your darkness. Check out these 9 exercises to help you find happiness when it feels kind of impossible.
- Choose to be happy. It might seem crazy at the time but the simple act of telling yourself “I choose to be happy right here, right now” actually works wonders.
- Smile. Studies show that just moving your mouth into a smile automatically improves your mood.
- Make a list of 10 things that never fail to make you laugh. Then do one of those things. Whether it’s reading a corny joke, watching a favorite YouTube video (here’s one that never fails to make me laugh), or playing with your dog. Keep this list around and refer to it when necessary.
- Dance. It’s a proven fact (at least it is in my world) that a mini dance party can turn any frown upside down. It’s also a great way to re-set for any reason at any time of day.
- Practice gratitude. This can really be as easy as telling the Universe “I am grateful for this butterscotch hot chocolate”.
- Give someone a compliment. How does this help your mood? Smiles are contagious and you’ll likely make that person’s day.
- Cross one thing off your to-do list. Sometimes our lack of happiness stems from the fact that we’re overwhelmed and overworked and just feeling like the world is too much. Completing one task (and for some of us, physically crossing that thing off your list) can feel like such a relief that it’ll help your mood, even if it’s a simple task that only took you 30 minutes to get through.
- Meditate, even if it’s only for 2 minutes.
- Take care of your body. Drink some water. Eat some veggies. When your body is happy your mind will be, too!
For me, simply choosing to spot the happy has made a huge difference. Several years ago, when I left my toxic corporate job, I participated in #100HappyDays on Instagram. It was a great way to help me pick the happy out of my everyday life as I was beginning a new adventure of entrepreneurship. When things got dicey this fall, I did the same. I’ve chosen to make it easy– I don’t HAVE to post something every day if I’m not feeling it. But I’m aiming for 100 total consecutive posts of things that make me happy. Sometimes these are simply gratitude lists. Other times I’m diving deep. I’d encourage you to try the same– it’s amazing how hard it can feel to find the happy some days!
What’s your favorite happiness trick? I’d love to get a list of other ideas going in the comments.
It seems like one fourth of the country is cleaning up from Hurricane Harvey, one fourth is currently raising money to help the clean-up efforts, one fourth is trying to breathe amid the crazy wildfires on the west coast and one fourth is preparing for Hurricane Irma. Luckily, everyone I know directly in Houston had minimal damage and everything is fine.
I’m particularly concerned about Irma, though, as Fort Myers Beach has become a bit of a second home. My parents were set to head down there next Monday and have fortunately canceled their trip. Reading that they just issued a mandatory evacuation for their area has me incredibly worried for both their property and their neighbors’. Sending happy thoughts and positive vibes to everyone dealing with any and all of this craziness that’s happening right now.
I know very few people who think public speaking is easy. But I know lots of people who someday want to get into it.
I consider myself to be a pretty competent writer. But there are things that even I can learn from this article.
A little something to make you smile this week…
And let’s be honest… I can’t get enough Charlene…
When I came into the world of online business, I had no intentions of being a social media guru. Though when I stop and think about it, social media marketing was just starting to come into its own. Facebook Pages had been around for about 3 years and while I ran one for my parents bar the resources for strategy were slim to none.
I quit my job at the beginning of my health coach schooling which meant I had a ton of time to consume just about any material I could find. I didn’t have a business yet but I wanted to be ready to dive in headfirst and get my business rolling quickly when I was ready.
I attended webinars on blogging and using Pinterest. I learned about pitching companies for sponsored blog posts, branding, creating media kits and more from people like The Alison Show, Hilary Rushford, and Whitney English at ALT for Everyone.
Eventually, I realized that social media was what I was really fascinated by.
I’ve been thinking about what makes social media so intriguing for me for some time. As you know, I recently stepped away from my business for about 9 months. While I was plugged into the world of social media through my job, I was out of touch with how online entrepreneurs were using it…which is in many ways completely different from how I was using it to market a local business.
And it wasn’t until I stepped away from this aspect of social media that this really sunk in.
Social media is always changing. There is always something new. If you follow any social media blogs there is breaking news every day– Facebook is testing a new way to track video views, Instagram is changing the way they display comments, Snapchat added a map so you can track your friends at any time.
I’m the kind of person who analyzes things, a lot. My first job out of college required me to do a lot of creative problem-solving. I learned that I really enjoyed looking at the data and seeing how many ways I could put together the puzzle pieces to make the big picture even better. With social media constantly changing, I’m able to always look at the data and find ways to do it better.
The fact that social media doesn’t work exactly the same for every business makes it that much more intriguing– it means even more opportunities for me to play and see what works. And as frustrating as all of that experimenting can sometimes be it’s so incredibly gratifying to see it all come together and eventually work.
Maybe the most amazing thing about social media is the way it makes the world so small. I have followers from all over the world. I’m based in Wisconsin but have worked with clients from nearly every state as well as people in England, South Africa, and Spain. I’m writing for a magazine whose editor is based in Thailand.
When all of these pieces come together, I can’t get enough.
Want to make staying up-to-date with the latest social media news even easier? Join Social Media for Health Coaches on Facebook– it’s totally free and I do my best to keep informed and give my thoughts on how to best take advantage of using the online world for your business.
Wow, it has been a week. We were able to run up to Door County for the weekend with Noah’s family. While we were only away for about 36 hours (with 8 total hours of driving to make it happen), it was good to just be away. I enjoyed a day in the pool with a good book and a morning by the lake to read as well.
The work week though, woof. The company I’ve been working for decided they needed to restructure and cutting back my job was part of it. Yep, that job that I’ve joked about being able to see myself at for the rest of my life… I’m grateful to still have something but bummed that it alone won’t pay the bills. But it is what it is and you’ll likely be seeing more of me until I figure out what my next step is. The good news is I recently read a study about “job hopping millennials” and how they’re benefitting from it– that’s something to aim for, right?
I’ve been quiet about the events in Charlottesville, not because I want to but because I truly cannot find the words that feel right, which I acknowledge is an extremely privileged thing to say. Until I can find those words, though, I share this with you…
Obviously, given my current situation, things are pretty stressful right now. The uncertainty could eat me up inside or I could just let it be and not worry. I’m choosing Radical Self Love.
Here’s what Gala Darling, the queen of self love, suggests to treat yourself.
I love Instagram. It’s the platform that I’ve returned to the most for my business and the one that I like to scroll for fun.
And while we’re on the topic of Instagram…
My 30th is coming up quickly… here’s what I’ve learned…
I’m almost 30 and I think I’ve finally found balance. I’ve preached this shit for years but don’t think it finally sank in until recently. It’s ok if I have an Oreo or two because they were leftover from a party– and I don’t need to beat myself up with a week of salads to make up for it. 🥗 I’ve worked myself into the ground and figured out that sometimes that means I then need crystals, essential oils, or some quiet time with a good book. 📿 I’ve learned to trust the Universe and believe in astrology but to do so with a little healthy dose of skepticism, because hard work and coincidences do exist and planning my life around the ESP of the Stars can only lead to disappointment. 🌟 I’ve learned that every mistake and failure, big or small, has a lesson to teach me and that worrying just leads me down a negativity rabbit hole. 🙌🏼 I choose whether or not I want to be happy and sometimes when shitty things happen it’s ok to drown your sorrows in a margarita or two but then you’ve got to pick yourself back up and use that energy for good instead of wallowing in self-pity. 🍹 I’ve discovered there is a point at which bitching goes from being therapeutic to dangerous and unproductive. What have you recently learned about yourself?
Have you created anything you’d like to share this week? Tell me about it in the comments!
I’m a big believer in the fact that while I know a lot, I don’t know everything. I spend a lot of time consuming information on the internet. I have one morning a week set aside to go through my Feedly, reading up on business and social media news, lifestyle blogs, woo woo magic, and more. I have a set of 10 blogs that I follow and read new blogs from every morning, as if they were my newspaper. I’m constantly using the “save” feature on Facebook (seriously, thank you, Facebook, for adding it). And my Safari “Reading List” has hundreds of articles at the ready at any given time.
And equally, I know it can sometimes be overwhelming to keep up with everything that is going on in the world.
So I thought I’d begin a weekly post to help keep you up to date with what’s going on in the world.
Some of this may be social media news. Some might be articles you can share with your healthy living followers. Or it might just be plain fun for your brain.
I’m still trying to work out what day of the week will work best to publish this weekly post– so please stick with me while I get it all figured out.
I’m calling this Power Hour because, well, I think it’s generally a good practice to spend at least an hour a week in a practice that will push you further in some way.
Read what’s attractive to you and skip the rest. That’s what I do with some of the other bloggers I follow who do posts like this. Read every word of every article I post. The only thing I ask is that you somehow take action in some way– even if that just means telling yourself “I’m choosing to love myself today and just read this for fun to get my brain off whatever is stressing me out.”
Okay… so let’s dig in.
A rewards system is worth the time, money, and effort. Not only will it help you manifest your ideal outcomes, it makes the process of achieving your goals more fun (and isn’t that the point?).
This is a debate that I’ve had for years– if you want your website to grow with your business, I’m with the author that WordPress is where it’s at. Yes, it can seem terrifying at first. But I think that’s because people make it more difficult than it needs to be. It’s really quite simple and intuitive once you figure it out (and, since it’s open source software and the most commonly used website backend, there is a shit ton of information out there to show you how to do just about anything you could possibly think of!).
Your clients might find this one pretty interesting.
Not knowing these policies can be minor in the long run. But they could also cost you big money. I posted another article about this and went on a rant about reposting on Instagram recently in the Social Media for Health Coaches Facebook Group. Check it out.
You know video is taking over Facebook. But did you know it can now take over your Cover Photo area? And using one is a great marketing strategy!
From an astrological perspective, August 2017 is going to be a very interesting month. Dig a bit further into the world of woo woo with this tarot reading.
Because sometimes, we all need a little “Fuck It” in our lives.
And finally, check out all of the music I’m currently obsessed with.
Did you find something cool (or maybe you wrote it yourself!) you want to tell me about this week? I’m always looking for something to read. Leave me a link in the comments 🙂